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Proverbs 25:15

Proverbs 25:15 Proverbs

Pastor Martin expounds Proverbs 25:15, using the vivid imagery of a 'soft tongue breaking the bone' to illustrate the power of gentle persuasion over stubbornness. He argues that confronting entrenched opinions or resistance with harsh, angry words is ineffective. Instead, a soft, tender approach, like the tissue of the tongue, can overcome even the most rigid opposition. Martin applies this principle to parenting, urging parents to teach their children this wisdom by modeling it in their own interactions, particularly in marriage, demonstrating how patience and gentleness can break the 'bone of resistance' in others.

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The Grotesque Imagery of Proverbs 25:15
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Breaking a Shin Bone with a Cow's Tongue

Driving home: a soft tongue breaks the bone. Here you got a big old shin bone, you want to make you up some good stock, with the marrow of the shin bone of an old cow that went to the slaughterhouse.

Martin vividly describes trying to break a large cow's shin bone for stock using a piece of a cow's tongue, highlighting the absurdity of the literal action to emphasize the counter-intuitive wisdom of the proverb.

In verse 15, this same chapter, by long forbearing is a ruler persuaded, and here again, this beautiful grotesque imagery, a soft tongue breaks the bone. Here you got a big old shin bone, you want to make you up some good stock, with the marrow of the shin bone of an old cow that went to the slaughterhouse. And I come to your kitchen, and there's that big shin bone, and you want to cut it up into chunks big enough, small enough to get into the pot, and to have the hot water boil out the marrow. And I see you there, with a piece of a cow's tongue, whacking away at the bone.