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Christian Fellowship (9) What is Love? (6)

Pastor Albert N. Martin expounds 1 Corinthians 13:5, focusing on the phrase "love does not behave itself unseemly." He argues that genuine Christian love manifests itself in adherence to righteous social and moral standards, particularly with respect to differences in age, rank, and social customs. Drawing heavily from Luke 7:36-50, Abraham's example in Genesis 18, and Paul's ministry in 1 Corinthians 9, Martin demonstrates that Christ-like love is sensitive to cultural etiquette, not out of hypocrisy, but as a means of commending the gospel and honoring others. He exhorts believers to settle in their hearts that unseemliness is a violation of love, a negation of Christ's redemptive purpose, and an erosion of the church's calling as light and salt in the world.

3 illustrations in this sermon

Defining 'Social Customs'
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Meeting the Queen vs. Prime Minister

Driving home: No, they are the symbol of appreciation and sensitivity, and they exist in a fallen world as an expression the common grace of God without which this world would become a veritable hell on earth

Illustrates how different social customs (curtsy, bow, handshake) are understood and expected within a society to show respect based on rank, emphasizing their symbolic importance.

and you were aware of what was expected of you if you were a woman, you would not simply stretch out your hand and give her a firm handshake and say, Howdy, Queen, Mother, how you doing today? No, you would stretch out your hand and give a warm but restrained handshake, and if you were a woman, you would give a very little curtsy. I've seen that on British television, just a little curtsy. If you were a man, you would stretch out your hand, you would bow slightly from the waist, and your head would go down, you would acknowledge submission to your Queen.

22:28 - 23:10 Read in full sermon
Personal Illustration: Social Customs in Pakistan
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Culture Shock in Pakistan

In this part of the sermon: Martin shares a personal anecdote from his trip to Pakistan, where he learned specific social customs (not using the left hand for food, not showing the bottom of the foot…

Martin recounts his first trip to Pakistan, detailing how he learned specific social customs (not using the left hand for food, not showing the bottom of the foot, greeting rituals) that were essential for maintaining credibility and demonstrating love in that cultural context.

In 1975, I made my first trip to Pakistan. And you talk about culture shock. The long plane ride was enough. And not even knowing whether I was going to be able to get into the country was enough.

42:30 - 42:44 Read in full sermon
Exhortation 4: Unseemliness Leads to Grosser Violations of Love
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Little Girl's Prayer

The point: Pray, 'Oh, God, make me a godly, sensitive, Christian lady,' and understand the meaning of 'lady' as marked by good manners, proper etiquette, and dignified bearing.

A little girl prayed, 'Oh, God, make all the bad people good and Lord, please make all the good people nice.' This illustrates that even 'good people' (Christians) can lack 'niceness' (good manners) and need God's grace in this area.

And one of its primary meanings, a lady is a woman known and marked. By. Her good manners and her proper etiquette have been dignified, bearing and demeanor. It's reported by one of the commentators that a little girl prayed one day and her mommy overheard her, oh, God, make all the bad people good and Lord, please make all the good people nice.

70:27 - 71:04 Read in full sermon