Ephesians 4:30-32
How the Unity of The Spirit can be Broken
Pastor Albert N. Martin expounds Ephesians 4:30-32, focusing on the command to 'give diligence to keep the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace.' He argues that grieving the Holy Spirit, individually and corporately, leads to spiritual weakness and impotence, drawing parallels to Samson's life. Martin identifies six specific sins that rupture the Spirit's unity: sowing discord, nursing grudges, chronic self-preoccupation, jealousy and envy, false doctrine, and prejudice/carnal stereotyping. He calls believers to repent of these sins at the cross and seek the Spirit's power from the throne to mortify them, emphasizing that true unity is found in Christ and the truth.
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Outline 12 sections · 76 min
- The Sadness of Grieving the Spirit: Samson's Tragedy as a Warning 0:05
- Five Ways the Holy Spirit is Grieved in the Church 6:53
- The Pivotal Text: Giving Diligence to Keep the Unity of the Spirit (Ephesians 4) 7:51
- The Necessity of Human Effort in Maintaining Unity 19:44
- Primary Ways Unity is Ruptured: Indulging in Sin 23:54
- Sin 1: Sowing Discord (Gossip, Evil Speaking, Backbiting, Raising Suspicions) 26:46
- Sin 2: Nursing Grudges and Resentments 33:31
- Sin 3: Chronic Self-Preoccupation 39:31
- Sin 4: Jealousy and Envy 45:03
- Sin 5: False Doctrine 53:58
- Sin 6: Prejudice and Carnal Stereotyping 61:17
- Call to Repentance and Empowerment 68:40
Key Quotes
“And the relevance of the tragedy of Samson is that what happened to him as an individual when he grieved away the Spirit, he went from a posture of great youthfulness to one of weakness, impotence, and shame can happen to churches when they grieve the Holy Spirit.”
“The Holy Spirit is grieved when the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace is not consciously and diligently maintained.”
“It is the unity of which the Spirit is the author. The unity that the Holy Spirit has effected when by His own activity He united us to Christ, He baptized us into the one body, He incorporated us into the same living temple, He brought us into living life relationship with the same spiritual, organic head, the Lord Jesus, the Holy Spirit has done all of those things truly to make us one.”
“Because that unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace which He has made with us in the world is not a mere part of the work of the Holy Spirit. It is not a part of the work of the Holy Spirit. But it is also a part of the work of the Holy Spirit. That's what Jesus said in the book of Revelation I read in the book of Genesis. And itself the bacteria of remaining sin is always seeking to multiply itself and unless we give unity of the spirit in the bond of peace the bacteria of envy and jealousy and suspicion and ill will and a host of other things will so multiply that a church can become nothing but a putrid gathering that has a horrible likeness to that stinking piece of meat”
“God says he abominates those who sow discord. Why? Because the one who sows discord is undermining the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace.”
“Chronic self-preoccupation will fracture the unity of the Spirit in this place or any other place perhaps more quickly than any other sin.”
“For where jealousy and faction are there is confusion in every vile deed. And my friends where there is confusion in every vile deed I will tell you one thing the Holy Ghost won't be present. He has long since been grieved away.”
“Christ received me in one identity only a hell deserving son of Adam that's it and once he received me he put me into one identity fundamentally one identity only a forgiven heaven bound redeemed sinner for my Bible says in Christ Jesus there is neither true nor Greek male nor female born nor free ye are all one man in Christ Jesus and therefore I plead with you face your prejudices face your carnal stereotypes and say oh God help me to put them to death”
Applications
Parents & families
- Do not nurse a grudge and resentment, even if you were set down less than graciously and kindly.
- Rejoice at God's prosperity upon your brothers and sisters in marriage, even if you are still single.
All listeners
- Maintain the presence of an ungrieved Holy Spirit in the totality of our life and ministry.
- Give diligence to keep the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace.
- Do not indulge in sins which would inevitably rupture the unity of the Spirit, and if indulged, seek the straightest course to repentance and cleansing.
- Seek repentance and cleansing and reformation of heart and disposition for sins that rupture unity.
- Do not allow the spirit of a grudge to enter into the orbit of those striving diligently to keep the unity of the Spirit.
- Do not nurse grudges and resentments, which is a disposition that says, 'When I can, I will get even.'
- Forgive one another from the heart, as God in Christ has forgiven us, so that all desire to retain grudges is gone.
- Do not look to your own things, but each of you also to the things of others.
- Do not become vain, glorious, provoking, or envying one another; walk under the control of the Spirit.
- If you want to cherish the presence and power and ministry of the Spirit, do not grieve Him by entertaining those sins which would rupture that unity.
- Rejoice with those who are blessed with children, even if your own heart weeps for barrenness.
- Rejoice when God blesses your brother financially, instead of harboring envy or jealousy.
- Be jealous to maintain doctrinal integrity in this place, for without it, unity will fracture.
- Receive one another even as Christ received you to the glory of God.
- Face your prejudices and carnal stereotypes and plead with God for the work of the Spirit to excise them.
- Use means to overcome prejudice, such as inviting those you have prejudices against to your home for dinner and confessing your prejudices to them.
- Grieve not the Holy Spirit of God by fracturing the unity of the Spirit through indulging in sins like sowing discord, nursing grudges, chronic self-preoccupation, jealousy and envy, false doctrine, or prejudice and carnal stereotyping.
- Go to the cross right now, repent of these sins, and seek forgiveness and cleansing in the blood of Christ.
- Hate and loathe these sins, turn from them, and cast them away, believing you are forgiven and cleansed.
- Stay at the cross, looking up, and ask the Lord Jesus for the virtue of His death to enter your heart and bring death to your envy, jealousy, and self-preoccupation.
- From the cross, go to the throne where Jesus sits, and ask Him to fill you with His Spirit to mortify these sins that would fracture the unity of the Spirit.
- If these sins dominate you, know that only the Son can make you free; take your posture as lost, helpless, and undone, and in Christ, find forgiveness, cleansing, and restoration.
A full transcript is available on the tab. 94 paragraphs, roughly 76 minutes.
The Sadness of Grieving the Spirit: Samson's Tragedy as a Warning
The following message was delivered on Sunday morning, March 15, 1992, at the Trinity Baptist Church in Montville, New Jersey. Now again this morning, may I urge you to turn with me please to Ephesians 4 and verse 30, and I shall read verses 30 through 32. Ephesians 4 and verse 30, and I shall read verses 30 through 32.
Ephesians 4 and verse 30, and I shall read verses 30 through 32. It's a cause of sadness to read the account of Adam and Eve banished from Eden, clothing themselves with shame and crippled with forfeited integrity. It's a cause of sadness to read the account of God looking down on the ancient world and pained at his own heart that he ever made man and saying, I'll start all over again, and he blots out the entire race. With the exception of one man in his family called Noah. That's sad.
It's sad to read the account of a man after God's own heart named David, given such privilege and raised to such heights of usefulness, cut off at the knees in midlife because he lusted with his eyes, committed adultery and plotted murder, and lived in hypocrisy and duplicity. And even after he was brought...
And even after he was brought to repentance, went to his grave as a man awkwardly trying to walk on the remaining stumps of his spiritual legs. It's sad. The Bible is full of sad things. But among the many real events with real people which cause real sadness, few are more tragically sad than those which cluster around the life of Samson.
Samson... Samson, that puzzling figure who served as one of the judges of ancient Israel.
That which makes Samson's life so sad is that it was a life which was marked at one time by great usefulness, only to become a life marked by weakness, impotence, and shame. The sad reality of Samson is captured in its essence in the words of Judges 6. Judges 6, verses 16 and 20, where it is written of him, and he awoke out of his sleep and said, I will go out as at other times and shake myself free. But he knew not that Jehovah had departed from him.
Now you say, Pastor Martin, that's all true. But what in the world does that have to do with the present series of studies entitled, a manifesto of Trinity Baptist Church, a series of studies in which we're attempting to bring into focus the major biblical perspectives and convictions which have regulated our life as a church for the first 25 years of our life together. Well, my answer to that question is this. We are presently considering the eighth affirmation in that manifesto namely, that we are determined to maintain the presence of an ungrieved Holy Spirit in the totality of our life and ministry. And the relevance of the tragedy of Samson is that what happened to him as an individual when he grieved away the Spirit, he went from a posture of great youthfulness to one of weakness, impotence, and shame can happen to churches when they grieve the Holy Spirit. Churches can go from places of blessing and youthfulness
to a horrible posture of weakness, impotence, shame, and sometimes even into non-existence. And it is our concern that whatever measure of blessing, we have known by the Spirit's presence in the past 25 years may not only be maintained, but by the grace of God increased and multiplied even until the coming of the Lord Jesus. And if that is to be true, then there must be in all of our hearts a corporate determination to maintain the presence of an ungrieved Holy Spirit in the totality of our life and ministry. And having demonstrated from this text and a parallel text in Isaiah 63 that there is both an individual and a corporate grieving of the Spirit, we have been concentrating our attention upon those ways in which the Holy Spirit is grieved in the corporate life of any church of Christ. He is grieved when Jesus Christ is received by the Holy Spirit. He is grieved when Jesus Christ is received by the Holy Spirit.
Five Ways the Holy Spirit is Grieved in the Church
He is grieved when Jesus Christ is received by the Holy Spirit. He has refused His rightful place of unrivaled preeminence. He is grieved when corporate holiness is not maintained when necessary by corrective discipline. He is grieved where the Scriptures are not given their rightful supremacy.
He is grieved where the person, presence, and power of the Holy Spirit are not esteemed as indispensable. Now this morning we'll address the fifth and final way in which the Holy Spirit is grieved in the corporate life of the church. And I've chosen to express it in this way. The Holy Spirit is grieved when the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace is not consciously and diligently maintained.
The Pivotal Text: Giving Diligence to Keep the Unity of the Spirit (Ephesians 4)
The Holy Spirit is grieved when the unity of the Spirit is not consciously and diligently maintained. The Holy Spirit is grieved when the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace is not consciously and diligently maintained. Now in opening up this strand of our subject, consider with me first of all the pivotal text which addresses this issue. Already that text has come to the minds of some of you.
It's found in the earlier part of chapter 4 in Ephesians. The pivotal text which addresses this issue.
Those of you familiar with this letter will remember that the first three chapters contain one of the most comprehensive statements of the grandeur of God's salvation to hell-deserving sinners in the person and work of the Lord Jesus. And as that salvation is applied by the Spirit and as it produces life and death, and as it makes the living temples made up of Jew and Gentile who now constitute the one people of God. And having set forth those marvelous aspects of the privileges of all who are called into a state of grace by the operation of the triune God, Paul then says, I therefore the prisoner in the Lord beseech you to walk worthily of the calling wherewith ye were called. And if that statement were found in isolation, it would be nothing less than something parallel to Romans 12, 1 and 2. It would be a general call that in the totality of the Christian life, our walk before God should somehow resonate with the realities of the magnitude of our salvation in Christ. But this is not a general call
to walk worthily of our being called into a state of grace, but you will notice that there is a particular focus in view. We are to walk worthily of the calling wherewith we were called with, and then several graces are highlighted, with all lowliness and meekness, with long suffering, and then two activities are highlighted, forbearing one another in love, giving diligence to keep the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace. And having landed on the note of giving diligence to keep the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace, the Apostle stays on that note, and then in the next verses shows the basis of that unity, he shows the outworking of that unity and the maturation and growth of the body of Christ. And so this call to walk worthily of our calling is not a generic call to an overview of the Christian life, but it is a call to walk worthily of God's gracious dealings with us when He effectually called us out of darkness, into light,
conferred this marvelous salvation upon us, incorporated us into His church. It is a call to walk worthily of that calling, particularly with reference to this matter of the maintenance of the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace. So he highlights the graces essential to the maintenance of that unity, lowliness, lowliness, and meekness with long-suffering, and then the two manifestations forbearing one another in love, giving diligence to keep the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace. And it is that final statement that is the climactic statement in the passage, and I trust I've demonstrated that to the conviction of your own judgment, since he then launches in to the reality of the one body, the one Spirit, et cetera. But let's spend just a few moments on this pivotal text. Notice what we are to do.
We are to give diligence to keep the unity of the Spirit. And the word used here in a participle form is that word that we have become very familiar with in conjunction with two other texts. When Paul said to Timothy in 2 Timothy 2.15, study or do thine utmost or give diligence to show thyself approved unto God, a workman that needeth not to be ashamed, handling aright the word of truth, this is the word that he used, spoudazo.
And what is a man to do who is to be a competent, able, unashamed workman in handling the word of God? Well, he must not just occasionally, bring this word into contact with his mind. And in the preparation to bring it to others, he must not in a half hour just flip through and find a text here and a text there that have some affinity of apparent word similarity and give it out as sermon. No.
He must study. He must give diligence. He must marshal all of his faculties and all of his energies. And he must bring them to a burning focal point of desire that in handling the word of God, he would do so in such a way that as a workman under the eye of God, he knows that God will not frown upon him that he has mishandled his own holy and infallible word.
Do thine utmost. Give diligence. That's the word. Giving diligence to keep the unity of the Spirit.
And then another text that is familiar to many of us. In 2 Peter 1.10 where Peter says, Give diligence to make your calling and election sure. Now how much spiritual energy should we all exert to make certain that we are truly in a state of grace?
Well you see, there is no question of more vital, crucial, personal importance. Am I under the wrath of God? Or am I in the favor of God? Am I on my way to hell?
Or on my way to heaven? Does hell stand yawning to consume me? Or the Lord Jesus stand ready to receive me? That's a vital question.
And Peter says, Give diligence to make your calling and election sure. In other words, focus all of your spiritual energies and faculties upon making a proper assessment of whether or not you're in a state of grace. That's our same word again. So when he says, Giving diligence to keep the unity of the Spirit, this is indeed a conscious and diligent activity.
Now he says, Giving diligence to keep the unity of the Spirit. And that word, to keep, is rendered in various ways in the New Testament to guard, to retain, to preserve, and all of those ideas confluence in this passage. We are to give diligence, that is, we are to consciously and with spiritual endeavor apply ourselves to the guarding, to the preserving, to the retaining, to the keeping of a certain commodity. And what is it called?
It is called the unity of the Spirit. It is the unity of which the Spirit is the author. The unity that the Holy Spirit has effected when by His own activity He united us to Christ, He baptized us into the one body, He incorporated us into the same living temple, He brought us into living life relationship with the same spiritual, organic head, the Lord Jesus, the Holy Spirit has done all of those things truly to make us one. So it is a unity effected by the operation of the Holy Spirit in the heart of every true believer. And it is called the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace. So it is a unity of which the Spirit is the author and the bond of which is peace.
Peace, the absence of hostility, enmity, alienation and ill will, the presence of amity, tranquility, fraternity, sympathy. It is a unity effected by the Spirit and the bond of that unity is this glorious reality of peace. Charles Hodge in his commentary wonderfully summarizes the thrust of this passage in these words. The only interpretation of these words in accordance with the Bible is that which makes the phrase in question mean that unity of which the Spirit is the author. Everywhere the indwelling of the Holy Spirit is said to be the principle of unity in the body of Christ. This unity may be promoted or disturbed. The exhortation is that by which it is to be preserved is the bond of peace.
That is that bond which consists of peace. The peace which results from love, humility, meekness and mutual forbearance is essential to the union and communion of the members of Christ's body which is the fruit and evidence of the Holy Spirit. The Holy Spirit is the source of all good and His absence the source of all evil. The importance of the duty enjoined cannot be overestimated.
The Necessity of Human Effort in Maintaining Unity
And so this brief exposition is not novel. I stand with the most responsible commentators that I've consulted in trying to briefly open up this pivotal text which brings front and center in the very emphasis of the Apostle Paul the fact that as the people of God we are consciously and diligently to labor at the maintenance of the unity which will inevitably result in grieving the Holy Spirit. And you ask well Pastor if the unity is effected by the Holy Spirit can't He sustain it without our effort? And I answer that is not His method of working. Because that unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace which He has
made with us in the world is not a mere part of the work of the Holy Spirit. It is not a part of the work of the Holy Spirit. But it is also a part of the work of the Holy Spirit. That's what Jesus said in the book of Revelation I read in the book of Genesis. And itself the bacteria of remaining sin is always seeking to multiply itself and unless we give unity of the spirit in the bond of peace the bacteria of envy and jealousy and suspicion and ill will and a host of other things will so multiply that a church can become nothing
but a putrid gathering that has a horrible likeness to that stinking piece of meat so the pivotal text here in ephesians 4 i believe warrants the language the holy spirit is grieved when the unity of the spirit in the bond of peace is not consciously and diligently maintained now having looked at the pivotal text which addresses the subject now secondly what are the primary ways in which the unity of the spirit is not consciously and diligently maintained what are the primary ways in which the unity of the spirit is not consciously and diligently maintained and as i have labored to try to reduce these things to some natural i trust they are natural and not artificial headings it seems to me according to my present light that there are three primary ways in which the unity of the spirit is not consciously and diligently maintain ways that are addressed again and again in the scriptures the first is by indulging in the sins which will inevitably rupture
Primary Ways Unity is Ruptured: Indulging in Sin
the unity of the spirit the second is by failure to cultivate the graces which are essential to the spiritual to promote the unity of the spirit and the third is by refusing to engage in the directions given to heal any breaches in the unity of the spirit and i believe under those three headings can be arranged all of the major text which address this subject in the word of god we're going to take up only the first this morning and god willing the next two in our study next lord's day the primary ways in which the spirit is not consciously the unity of the spirit is not consciously and diligently maintain the first by indulging in the sins which will inevitably rupture the unity of the spirit when the apostles says you are to give diligence you are to exert conscious constant deliberate effort to guard to maintain to preserve the unity of the spirit in the bond of peace he is calling us not to indulge in those sins which would inevitably rupture the unity of the spirit and if we've indulged in them
not to remain in them but to seek the straightest course to repentance and cleansing and reformation of heart and disposition and repentance and cleansing and reformation of heart and disposition let me set before you six specific sins that according to the scripture witness are often prevalent when the unity of the spirit has been ruptured sins which will in and of themselves any one of them if indulged rupture that unity and at the head of the list is what solomon calls in proverbs chapter six the sowing of discord proverbs chapter six proverbs chapter six verse sixteen there are six things which jehovah hates yes seven which are an abomination onto him things towards which god has something more than a fleeting emotion of displeasure he has a deep settled heart holy aversion and loathing to these things what are they haughty eyes all lying tom
Sin 1: Sowing Discord (Gossip, Evil Speaking, Backbiting, Raising Suspicions)
hands that shed innocent love a heart to devise it wicked purposes feet that are swift in running to mischief all falls witness that breeds out lies and he that's so it discord among brethren only if we are commanded give diligence labor consciously and deliberately and constantly to guard preserve maintain the unity of the spirit in the bond of peace than any indulgence in any sin that in any way shows discord is flying into the face of this solemn injunction he that sows discord is classed along with the proud with the heart that devises wicked purposes with murderers of innocent people and with blatant perpetual chronic liars they are those whose whom god's soul loathes what must he think of one
of his own children upon whom he has expended such redemptive energy and grace to bring him into the unity of the spirit within the people of god the bond of that unity which is peace what must it be in the mind and heart of god when such a one would indulge in the sin of sowing discord you say pastor how is that done well it's done primarily by gossip evil speaking raising suspicions about others gossip proverbs twenty six twenty and twenty one proverbs chapter twenty six verses twenty and twenty one for lack of wood the fire goes out and where there is no whisperer contention ceases as coals are to hot embers and wood to fire so is a contentious man to inflame strife a gossip is defined as a person who chatters and repeats idle talk and rumors especially about the private affairs of others did you hear that did you know that
were you aware that speech that has no good end in view but only that which will fill the minds of others with thoughts true or false that will cause a fracturing of the unity of the Spirit. God says He hates those who sow discord among the brethren. In some it is not by gossip, but by downright evil speaking and backbiting. James 4 and verse 11, we are commanded here in the Word of God, speak not evil one of another.
James 4 and verse 11, speak not one against another. Brethren, he that speaketh against a brother or judges his brother speaks against the law and judges the law. When we take the posture of speaking evilly of our brethren, it is not a case where they have wronged us and we are responsible to go and rebuke them, but we speak evil concerning them. Out of a disposition.
A disposition of heart that is something other than love. We engage in backbiting, very graphic word, that someone has nipped at our heels and we are going to nip back at theirs. And one of Paul's great concerns with the Corinthian church was he feared that if they had not dealt thoroughly with the sins addressed in his previous letters, he says in 2 Corinthians 12, 20, I fear, lest by any means, when I come, I should find you not such as I would, and should myself be found of you such as ye would not, lest by any means, now look at the things he fears, there should be strife, jealousy, rats, factions, backbitings, whisperings, swellings, tumults. You see the area of his concern? He says, I fear when I come, I will not find a patent demonstration of the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace, but I will find the outcropping of those sins which are the product of discord being sown and taking root and flourishing among you, evil speaking and backbiting. And it can be done by raising suspicions where a man or woman in his own walk
before his brethren, has not raised suspicions about his integrity, but by dropping a seed here and a seed there, you can sow discord. That's why the Scripture says in Proverbs 16, 28, it is the whisperer who separates chief friends. The whisperer. It's Iago saying to Othello, what about your wife Desdemona's handkerchief?
Until just sowing a little seed of doubt about a handkerchief, Shakespeare has captured, the end result of this kind of sin. Desdemona, who was as pure as the new fall in snow as a wife, utterly locked up in her affections and interactions to her husband, Othello ends up being murdered by the man consumed with unfounded suspicion, all based on a whisperer, a whisperer, a whisperer. Dear people of God, these are not innocent sins. These are not innocent sins.
These are not little failings and little foibles. God says he abominates those who sow discord. Why? Because the one who sows discord is undermining the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace.
Sin 2: Nursing Grudges and Resentments
And when that unity has been undermined and no longer is peace the bond that holds the people together, the Spirit of God, then there is also a second sin that contributes to this rupturing of the unity of the Spirit. I didn't know what else to call it but the nursing of grudges and resentments. The nursing of grudges and resentments. Where is this addressed in the Scriptures?
Proverbs chapter 20 and verse 22. Here is the language of a grudge-filled, grudge-permeated spirit. You've heard of it. You've heard about a grudge match.
You've heard about a grudge war among street gangs. We've been wronged. And now we're letting it burn and we're letting it stew and we're letting it percolate in the depths of our own spirits until we can do what? Until we can get even.
Proverbs 20 and verse 22 addresses this very issue. Say not thou, I will recompense you. Recompense even. I'll get even.
Wait for the Lord and He will save thee. Do not say, I will recompense. I will allow the spirit of grudging determination to get back. Don't allow it to take root in your heart.
Proverbs 24 and verse 29. Similar exhortation. Say not, I will do so to him as he hath done to me. I will render to the Lord, to the man according to his work.
It's humorous. And in this young lad, it may have been excusable, but I tell you it's not humorous in adults. One of the families was telling me a few weeks ago of an incident in which the youngest member of the household felt he was wronged by an older member of the household. And all day long he complained about the horrible injustice of what this older member of the household had done to him.
He was really presenting a case to have the whole household have a pity party for him. Well, toward the end of the day, come to find out that he had already taken vengeance into his own hands and he had given a tit for tat. He had done back to the older member of the household exactly what the older member had done to him. And when the parent involved took him in hand and was about to show him the wrong of his action, he spoke with great authority and said, there is a verse in the Psalms that says, do unto others as they have done to you.
And he said it with all the authority of a preacher. There's a verse in the Psalms that says, Do unto others as they have done unto you. Well, obviously, this parent knew his or her Bible better than to let that perversion of the Word of God go unnoticed, even though the young member spoke it like a little preacher. Well, I say it's laughable and excusable, perhaps, in a little kid.
For what a tragedy when adults live by such a rule.
Do unto others. As they have done to you. That's the spirit of a grudge. And God says it is not to enter into the orbit of those who are spoudazzo, striving diligently to keep the unity of the Spirit.
It's emphasized in the New Testament as well, 1 Thessalonians 5 and verse 15. Very simply, the apostle puts it in this language. See that none render unto anyone. Evil for evil.
But always follow after that which is good, one toward another and toward all. Nursing grudges and resentments is to nurse the disposition that says, When I can, I will get even. And if I can't, I would if I could. And still maintain my credibility as a Christian.
It's a disposition of the heart. And may I exhort you, in a congregation, even like this, it would be so easy for grudges and resentments to grow out of shattered romantic interests. As a young man who cast his eyes upon a young woman, something seems to be going and then it comes to naught. And a few weeks later, the young man shows an interest in another young woman.
What is the one who's left with perhaps, if not a broken heart, a semi-shattered heart? What is she to do? Is she going to nurse a grudge and resentment? Even if the way she was set down was less than gracious and kind?
It's these kinds of things that can grieve and quench the Holy Spirit. Nursing grudges and resentments is often the fruit of failing to do what Jesus said in Matthew 18.35. He said, So shall my heavenly Father do to you if you forgive not every man his brother from the heart.
So shall my heavenly Father do to you if you forgive not every man his brother from the heart. When forgiveness is from the heart, all desire to retain anything that even borders on a grudge or resentment is gone. Because we are then fulfilling what we read earlier today, we are to be tenderhearted, forgiving one another even as God in Christ has forgiven us. When God forgives, all of His complaints against us are gone.
Sin 3: Chronic Self-Preoccupation
And we are to forgive as He forgives. There is a nursing of grudges and resentment that would grieve and drive away the Spirit. There is a third sin that will very, very quickly and tragically and inevitably rupture the unity of the Spirit in addition to the sowing of discord, to the nursing of grudges and resentments, what I call chronic self-preoccupation. Chronic preoccupation!
Where the unity of the Spirit prevails, each of the parts within that unified body is primarily concerned for two things, for others within the body and for the well-being of the body as a whole. But let chronic self-preoccupation erupt in which everything is viewed with respect to me, how it affects me, touches me, how it impinges on my interests and my feelings and my desires and my wishes, and the unity is immediately fractured. This is why in Philippians chapter 2 in one of the most powerful passages appealing for this unity along with our key passage in Ephesians 4, notice how the Apostle brings this issue into center stage. Philippians chapter 2 he is pleading that the Philippians would make his joy full by maintaining love and unity. Verse 2 Make full my joy that you be of the same mind, having the same love, being of one accord, of one mind. You see the emphasis on unity?
And if it is to be attained, notice what he says, verse 4 not looking each of you to his own things. There will never be this true expression of one accord, of one mind, of the sameness of perspective as long as our gaze is upon ourselves. Each of you not looking to his own things, but each of you also to the things of others. There are certain basketball teams that according to the computers when they feed in and it is amazing what they can do with modern day technology and analyzing athletics, analyzing athletic abilities and all the rest and fed into computers. There are certain basketball teams, certain hockey teams, teams engaged in sports that are not only team sports but where intimate team chemistry is crucial, even more crucial than in baseball and in football where on paper that team ought to be a championship team. But they never make it to the championship level. And when people analyze it, you know what the root problem is almost always traced to?
They say you have too many individual stars who do not have a commitment to the whole team and the well-being and success of the team. You've got the man who's earned the reputation for being an excellent outside shooter and he likes that reputation, he's earned it, he's paid a price to attain it, but he can't give it up. And so when they double-team and triple-team him, he's still determined to shoot over two or three oak trees standing in front of him and he hits three for 13. Whereas the team that makes it to the championship has got a man like a Michael Jordan who though he's top scorer in the NBA year after year, on the night when they triple-team him, he'll feed off to Scotty Pippen and he doesn't care who's top scorer that night. NBA champions, why? You've got to have a group of men, each one looking to the things of the other and concerned about the well-being of the whole. They do it to attain a corruptible crown.
God have mercy upon a church that for the glory of Christ and the advancement of his kingdom, what big man of the world can a championship ring? Not looking to his own thing, but to the things of another. Chronic self-preoccupation will fracture the unity of the Spirit in this place or any other place perhaps more quickly than any other sin. But then there is a fourth sin which if indulged will inevitably rupture the unity of the Spirit. And dear people, I take no pleasure in naming these sins. God knows how reluctant I was to preach this stuff. But the Bible addresses it.
Sin 4: Jealousy and Envy
And the Bible tells us we must endeavor to keep the unity of the Spirit. Endeavor enough to identify and deal even with these horrible sins. And the fourth category of sin is that of jealousy and envy. Turn to Romans 13 and verse 13.
The sins of jealousy and envy. In Romans 13 and verse 13. Let us walk becomingly as in the day. Not in reveling and drunkenness.
We'd say Christians falling into sins of reveling and drunkenness. Apparently the Apostle Paul thought it possible he wouldn't warn them not to do it. Not in chambering and wantonness. You say what's chambering and wantonness?
Well the Greek words could be literally rendered bedding down and sensual orgies. That's what it's talking about. Sleeping around. Christians? Yes.
In the society of Rome where sexual promiscuity was very much parallel to our own American society at present. He had to warn Christians walk becomingly as children of the light and children of the day. On your way to the dawning of the great day when the Lord Jesus will return. And that means you will avoid reveling and drunkenness.
Bedding down and sensual orgies. Now notice the next couplet. Not in strife and jealousy. What horrible companions strife and jealousy have.
But isn't it amazing many a church that wouldn't tolerate any kind of proliferation of reveling and drunkenness and bedding down and sensual orgies will tolerate strife and jealousy. But dear people strife and jealousy jealousy and envy horrible sins God puts them in terrible company. Galatians 5 25 and 26 again writing to Christians who in union with Christ have known the dethronement of the reign of sin. For they that are of Christ Jesus have crucified the flesh with the passions and the lusts thereof. Sins dominion has been destroyed in virtue of our union with Christ. We share in the virtue of His death for sin and to sin. We have risen with Him to newness of life.
If we live by the Spirit that is if we have received such a life by the agency of the Holy Spirit. By the Spirit let us also walk. And what does it mean to walk in the Spirit? Well among other things it will mean this.
Let us not become vain, glorious, provoking or challenging one another envying one another. You see to walk under the control of the Spirit is to walk in a realm where my heart will never be a resting place for the horrible sin of envy. If envy rises up I will be welcomed and given an open door and brought in to be my companion jealousy and envy. Another text that addresses these sins James chapter 3 and verse 16.
James 3 and verse 16. True wisdom will always have moral qualities about it. And James says in verse 14 but if you have bitter jealousy and faction in your heart glory not and lie not against the truth. This wisdom is not a wisdom that cometh from above but is earthly, sensual, devilish or literally demonical.
For where jealousy and faction are there is confusion in every vile deed. And my friends where there is confusion in every vile deed I will tell you one thing the Holy Ghost won't be present. He has long since been grieved away. Oh dear people if you want to cherish the presence and power and ministry of the Spirit do not grieve Him by entertaining those sins which would rupture that unity.
The sins of jealousy and envy. Vine in his well known oft used work used by preachers anyway on the synonyms in the New Testament suggests that envy is that feeling of displeasure produced by witnessing or hearing of the advantages and charity of others. That's what envy is. That feeling of displeasure when I hear that someone else has succeeded.
Someone else is being blessed. It says that for envy Pilate knew that for envy they had delivered up Jesus. The chief priests and the scribes saw the multitudes following our Lord. They saw the success of His grip over the masses.
They were losing their grip over the masses. They envied Him. They were feeling of displeasure produced by and witnessing His prosperity. Vine suggests that jealousy is the passion of coveting for myself what another has.
Of course one of the classic examples is Saul and David. God's hand come upon young David but at the same time his hand has been removed from Saul and Saul cannot stand it. He burns with jealousy until that jealousy causes him to pick up his javelin and seek to nail David to the wall on more than one occasion. And that spirit quiets down and David acts nobly and Saul goes through some crocodile tears and says oh you're more righteous and I'll never trouble you again and a few days later he's trying to nail him to the wall or track him down over the Judean hills.
Horrible sin of jealousy. Oh dear people what horrible possibilities there are in a congregation like this. Some of you yearn to have children and you see some of your sisters here in this congregation every time you turn around they're dandling a new baby on their knee. Can you really rejoice with them while your own heart weeps for your own barrenness and it will and it's not wrong that it does.
God did not chide the mother of Samuel for her tears wrung out of the pain of her barrenness but can you rejoice when God gives fruitful wounds to others or do you feel a burning spirit of envy God blesses her womb why not mine and the test is this if you draw back from that woman when her tummy begins to swell and you cannot rejoice with her while she speaks glowingly of the anticipation of the birth of her little one if God's blessing on her wound puts distance between you it's a good sign envy has taken root in your heart you've prayed that God would give you a godly wife a godly husband you've prayed that for some of your other single brothers and sisters and one by one they begin to get paired off and married and you're always the bridesmaid and never the bride always the best man and the usher but never the groom do you rejoice at God's prosperity upon your brothers and sisters or is there envy in your heart a feeling of displeasure produced by witnessing the prosperity
Sin 5: False Doctrine
and blessing of God in that area upon others jealousy the passion of coveting for yourself what another has many of you struggling to get together that down payment and you've been working at it for ten years and along comes some young buck just barely dry behind the ears and in five years he's been so blessed he's got the money to put the thing down and he's in his house and every time you think of it instead of rejoicing and saying Lord as you've blessed my brother so in due course you'll bless me down underneath there's a spirit of envy and a spirit of jealousy dear people we're to endeavor to keep the unity of the spirit and the bond of peace and if we would then do not indulge these sins that are nothing less according to the scripture than Christ murdering sins Pilate knew that for any they had Christ murdering sin it is a spirit grieving and then false doctrine I'll touch briefly upon it and this struck me in doing the word studies on these things Ephesians 4 turn back to it Paul moves from this entreaty to give diligence to keep the unity of
the spirit in the bond of peace to speaking in this same chapter verse 13 till we all attain unto the unity of the faith and of the knowledge of the Son of God unto a full grown man unto the measure of the stature of the fullness of Christ unity of the spirit merges into unity of the faith and unity of knowledge you see the connection as we saw in a previous study the spirit is the spirit of truth and wherever he is present and ungrieved he is bringing that congregation more and more to an understanding and a heart commitment to the truth and the closer we are drawn to the truth the closer we stand to one another true spiritual unity is found in the realm of the unity of the faith the body of revealed truth the unity of knowledge this is why Paul could say in dealing with the fractured church at Corinth I want you 1 Corinthians 1 in verse 10 I want you all to speak the same thing to be of the same mind and of the same judgment and 1 Timothy 6 indicates that the cause of fracturing unity is
false teaching in some cases look at chapter 6 of 1 Timothy 1 Timothy chapter 6 verse 3 if any man teaches a different doctrine consents not to sound words even to the words of the Lord Jesus Christ and to the doctrine which is according to godliness he is puffed up knowing nothing doting about questionings and disputes of words whereof comes what envy strife and railings here's a direct line between envy strife railing and the introduction of false teaching into the church this notion love unites doctrine fractures is nonsense John says my children whom I love in the realm of the truth and I love for the truth sake even the truth that is with you there is no no dichotomy in the mentality of the New Testament and in the entirety of the word of God between that love which unites and that truth which is the orbit within which biblical love operates and is fostered why must we be jealous
to maintain doctrinal integrity in this place without it will fracture our unity the unity of the spirit is a unity in the truth how are we going to fulfill that beautiful exhortation with reference to what we would call unity unity and the spirit of unity manifesting itself in united coral response to God's goodness Romans 15 and verses 5 and 6 the God of patience and comfort grant you to be of the same mind one with another according to Christ Jesus be of the same mind according to Christ as every mind is speaking in his word speaking through his word speaking objective truth you may he said be of the same mind one with another according to Christ Jesus in order that with one accord you may with one mouth what a beautiful picture the church has become so united that it has only one mouth one mouth glorify the God and Father of the Lord Jesus Christ how can you do that if there is doctrinal disunity trying to illustrate it
I thought well suppose we went into Carnegie Hall next Christmas time when they have the Messiah every year and when everyone 200 voices are all singing worthy is the land that was slain to receive blessing and glory and honor and power you got a tenor over here and an alto over there and a bass there and a soprano there singing a section out of the hallelujah chorus and sit there and say what's happened to this crazy bunch and suddenly handles beautiful capturing of the spirit of that marvelous text from Revelation worthy is the land that was slain in my preparation I couldn't help but sing it out loud and I said Lord I'll resist the temptation to do it in the pulpit but you can hear it can't you worthy is the land that was slain somebody's over here what a that's what happens when three or four people begin to break off and think their own thoughts about truth there is no longer with one mouth glorifying the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ and the unity of the spirit is fractured ruptured when there is the entertainment of false doctrine and then
Sin 6: Prejudice and Carnal Stereotyping
finally God knows again I'd rather not address this but it has to be addressed when prejudice and carnal stereotyping ever takes root in our hearts the unity of the spirit will be gone prejudice and carnal stereotyping of others prejudice is defined as suspicion intolerance or irrational hatred of other races regions occupations or nationalities carnal stereotyping is projecting notions of a given group and treating them according to the notions and not reality and brethren we don't have to look far in the New Testament to see this problem there was the prejudice of the Jew to the Gentile so deep was that prejudice that God had to knock it out of Peter initially by giving him a vision three times and get him to go sit down and eat in the house of the Gentile in order to preach the gospel but even then it didn't all get knocked out of him later on Paul had to withstand him to his face according to Galatians chapter 2 because he was sitting there having meals with the Gentile and having a grand old time until some of these legalistic Judaizers came up from Jerusalem and the minute Peter saw them come through the door boom he split went over there and sat in the corner with the Jews and would have nothing to do with social interaction with the Gentiles Paul said
in doing this he is denying the gospel by his actions he is denying the gospel the gospel has made the one new man in Christ in which there is neither Jew nor Greek bond nor free male nor female he said I was stood into his face and even Barnabas son of consolation marvelous man seemed to be so free of prejudice went up from Jerusalem up to Antioch into that Gentile city and saw the hand of God there and the grace of God at work in forming a primarily Gentile church something entirely new and Barnabas was glad when he saw the grace of God and he exhorted them read it in Romans 11 he seemed to be blissfully free from it they backslid he said even Barnabas was carried away with Peter's dissimulation I tell you prejudice is an awfully deep seated thing and so are carnal stereotypes and brethren if we ever allow them to take root here or if they are deep rooted if we refuse to plead with God for the work of the spirit to excise them we will fracture that unity which God says is to be our portion for example Titus 1 12 says that the Cretans had a well-earned reputation for being lazy for being liars and for being gluttons now that's not a carnal stereotyping that Paul
says is a true witness but here comes a man into your church there at Ephesus and you say where are you from well I'm on a business trip where do you oh I'm from the Isle of Crete and immediately everyone grabs their purses and sticks them under their seats and a word goes around don't believe anything that comes out of this guy's mouth he's a Cretan they're all a bunch of liars don't invite him to your home he'll pick your cupboard bare they're gluttons what a terrible thing it would be that would be a carnal stereotyping not giving this man a chance to show that yes my fellow countrymen have earned a reputation for being liars and gluttons yes but I'm a new man in Christ I speak the truth and my appetites are under control at least give me a chance to get into your home and prove it my friend listen I'm going to speak bluntly almost all of us were brought up in situations where prejudice and carnal stereotyping were inbred into us I remember that place in Connecticut where I was reared where we had our little Italy our little Poland our little Ireland our little Scotland our little Italy all the rest and it was amazing the Polish people they had their derogatory terms for the Irish and the Italians and
some of us were Heinz 57 varieties and then the Irish they had their pejorative terms for the Italians every group has its pejorative terms of all the other groups and I've moved enough around the world to know that even within ethnic groups light blacks have their names for black blacks and darker black blacks have their names for light blacks and pure Hispanics with Cuban blacks have their prejudice to those fellow Cubans who've got a little black or have too much of this Indian blood in them what a horrible thing wherever you go around the world it's part and parcel of the horrible effects of sin that not only have put a roof over our head and cut us off from God but built up a thousand walls to cut us off from our fellow men and dear people if we allow prejudice and carnal stereotyping to exist among us we'll never fulfill Romans 15 7 simple command but oh not simple to obey wherefore receive ye one another even as Christ received you to the glory of God Christ received me in one identity only a
hell deserving son of Adam that's it and once he received me he put me into one identity fundamentally one identity only a forgiven heaven bound redeemed sinner for my Bible says in Christ Jesus there is neither true nor Greek male nor female born nor free ye are all one man in Christ Jesus and therefore I plead with you face your prejudices face your carnal stereotypes and say oh God help me to put them to death and you know the best way to do it you are brought up believing such and such about all Italians or such and such about all blacks or such and such about all whites tell some of the people in that category look God's put us into one body and I'm taking seriously the exhortation to strive to endeavor to do my utmost to guard preserve the unity of the spirit and I've got a prejudice against Swedes or I've got a prejudice against Italians or I've got a prejudice against blacks or I've got a prejudice against whites and I've asked God to kill it and I'm going to use the means will you come to my house for dinner and we're going to sit down and I'm going to tell you what my prejudices are and I want you to help me to get over them you come to that place they're 98% gone it's when you hold them won't face them
Call to Repentance and Empowerment
and when you do you justify them and then you look for every evidence to confirm that prejudice you might read five pages on a newspaper where people of that ethnic or racial group did something noble but find one little article on page 17 over in the corner where they did something rotten you say cedar all alike that's what's in your heart that's what's in my heart that's what's in all of our hearts by nature but when God said endeavor to keep the unity of the spirit he was not making demands upon the remnants of our own sinful flesh but he was making demands upon his own grace to us in Christ and so I urge you this morning grieve not the Holy Spirit of God do not grieve him by fracturing the unity of the spirit by the indulgence of these sins that will inevitably rupture that unity sowing discord nursing grudges and resentments chronic self preoccupation jealousy and envy false doctrine or prejudice and carnal stereotyping you say pastor I've been nailed on three of those this morning I've been nailed on two I've been nailed on all six what do I do go to the cross and go right now
and go before your Lord Jesus and say oh Lord Jesus I've been found out but my Bible says you died for sins these sins you bore my sins in your body up to the tree Lord Jesus your word says that your blood cleanses from all sin Lord I bring the sin of sowing discord and seek his forgiveness the sin of nursing grudges of chronic self preoccupation of jealousy and envy false doctrine prejudice and carnal stereotyping every one of them can be cleansed in the blood of Christ go to the cross visit the cross and there repent and see in the groans and in the shrouded heavens and in the cry of dereliction God's judgment upon those sins and hate them and loathe them and turn from them and cast them and believe that you are forgiven and cleansed but then stay at the cross looking up again say Lord Jesus you not only died for these sins but in union with you I died to these sins I died to their mastery they were judged upon the cross Lord Jesus may the virtue of your death enter the deepest recesses of my heart and there bring death to my
envy and my jealousy and my self preoccupation enable me to reckon myself to have died unto sins dominion and power even these sins that would grieve the spirit and then from the cross go to the throne where Jesus sits to send forth his spirit in ever increasing and copious measures upon his people and say oh Lord Jesus from your place of exaltation and power fill me with your spirit not to speak in tongues and dance in an isle but oh Lord that I may by the spirit mortify these sins that would fracture the unity of the spirit for if ye by the spirit do mortify the deeds of the flesh ye shall live visit the cross visit the throne and there are some of you sitting here in whom these sins are not the remnants of remaining sin they are the evidence of the reign of sin and these sins dominate you my friend listen whatever sins dominate you there is only one answer and that is the one who said if the son shall make you free you shall be free indeed it is a wonderful thing to be free of prejudice to be able to look every man in the eye and say look we stand on the level ground
of created dignity in Eden we stand on the humbling ground of corporate sinfulness in Adam as we move over to that tree of the knowledge of good and evil and say when he took the fruit my hand was with him and in him I sin and we stand on level ground before Golgotha behold the immolated suffering son of God and my friend when we have stood and seen our dignity in original created image bearing capacity in Eden we have felt the shame of our fallenness in our first father Adam and in our wretchedness we have stood naked and undone and helpless at Calvary there is no room now for prejudice no room for envy no room for jealousy no room for carnal stereotyping it is as those truths are kept alive in our hearts and for you who are outside of Christ there is only one way for you to know the blessedness of this unity of the spirit and that is to take your posture where we have to take it lost helpless undone that is my fundamental identity but in Christ forgiven cleansed restored to fellowship
with God that is my fundamental identity if I become a Christian everything else is cosmetic and incidental may God grant that as a congregation we will strive endeavor give conscious constant deliberate effort to maintain the unity of the spirit by refusing to indulge and to retain any sins that would fracture that unity let us pray our father we thank you for your word that it is a lamp unto our feet and a light to our pathway and we pray that that word preached this morning would find its mark in all of our hearts and that we as a church may be kept from these sins that would fracture the unity of the spirit in the bond of peace may we hate and loathe these sins of the heart these sins of the tongue may we seek forgiveness at the only place it can be found and seek enablement to overcome in the only place where it can be found seal your word to our hearts we pray in Jesus name Amen
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Passages Expounded
This passage is the central text, introducing the command to not grieve the Holy Spirit and to maintain the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace.
This passage is expounded to show the pivotal call to walk worthily of our calling, specifically by giving diligence to keep the unity of the Spirit.
This passage is expounded to highlight 'sowing discord among brethren' as a sin God hates, serving as the first major category of sins that rupture unity.
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